You
were three years old when this started, when was the last time you
visited
your father:
April
2002, my 7th
grade spring break
Was
he abusive
towards you on your last visit:
I found
sex oils
right next to my Kotex and I know he put them there on purpose.
How
does your
father explain to people what he has done:
He
insists that
he has not done anything wrong. He tells people that I have PAS (Parental
Alienation Syndrome), so I claim some sort of "abuse". He denies
molesting
me.
More
importantly,
how does he justify his behavior to you:
I have
never confronted
him about the bathing. I yelled at him for the verbal abuse and he said
that because he is an adult he is allowed to say whatever he wants to
me.
When I told him I hated him, he told me that love and hate were the
same
thing.
Your
father
says he is a victim of "Parent Alienation Syndrome" and that he never
molested
you. What does he hope to accomplish by saying this, certainly he
realizes
that you KNOW what he did? He can possibly escape prosecution by using
this PAS as an excuse, however, does he expect that YOU will forget
this
if he does:
He says
I have PAS,
I think he just wants to get attention focused on him. PAS is not an
actual
medical syndrome, and the "genius" who came up with it, Richard Garner,
thankfully committed suicide this year after a boy accused of having
PAS
killed himself. I haven't confronted Ed personally about the
molestation,
although he emailed me soon after I went public. I told him I hate him
even more than he thought I did for what I have had to go through for
14
years. He acted like nothing happened, denied that he didn't do
anything,
blatantly in the email! If he thinks I will ever forgive him, he's got
another thing coming. I have told him that I will never forget nor
forgive
him for the abuse I suffered at his hands. I stay true to that
statement.
Nothing can unring the bell as my Daddy says, I will never forgive Ed
for
what he has done, I will certainly never forget it, and I hope that
when
he dies he will be sorry for what he did.
As
you well
know, the system has failed MANY children in the past. Is there a Judge
WE the public can write to and try to make him listen and understand
that
YOU are not making this up and that you are in real emotional and
physical
danger:
The
judge with jurisdiction
over this case is Judge Stephen W. Rideout of Alexandria Virginia,
although
he is too stubborn and pig headed to listen to me. I think it is like
the
firing squad: the judges refuse to see kids in their courtrooms
(even
though they are in Family Law), because they refuse to see the
victims
they are literally KILLING by forcing them back into their abuser's
hands.
What
are your
plans for the future:
Well, my
HOPES are
to get Ed out of my life, permanently, without his parental rights. I
want
my Daddy to adopt me. He is legally my stepfather but I see him as my
daddy
because he deserves that title more than Ed ever did, does, and ever
will.
My PLANS are to go to PreMed, then off to Medical School (Hopefully
UCLA
or maybe even US), and I plan to be a Pediatrician. The way I see it, I
know a lot of problems that kids might have; maybe they will go through
the things I have. I want to be able to help them in any way I can; be
their buddy, not just their doctor. I am considering Neonatology,
working
with ill or premature babies, although I do not know if my heart could
take that.
My
sincere appreciation
goes out to Desireé for taking the time to answer these
questions
for me. I have found her to be one of the bravest young people I have
come
into contact with. She is going through so much and it can't be easy
for
her to deal with the fact that a judge won't listen to her.
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For information about preventing child
abuse in
the state of Virginia, click the links below. If they can't help you,
ask
for someone who can. NEVER give up looking for help for an
abused
child!

Call
this number
to report child abuse ANY WHERE in the United States!
1-800-4-A-Child
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