The pickle jar as
far back as I can remember
sat on the floor beside the dresser in my parents' bedroom. When he got
ready for bed, Dad would empty his pockets and toss his coins into the
jar.
As
a small boy
I was always fascinated
at the sounds the coins made as they were dropped into the jar. They
landed
with a merry jingle when the jar was almost empty. Then the tones
gradually
muted to a dull thud as the ! jar was filled.
I
used to squat
on the floor in front of
the jar and admire the copper and silver circles that glinted like a
pirate's
treasure when the s un poured through the bedroom window. When the jar
was filled, Dad would sit at the kitchen table and roll the coins
before
taking them to the bank. Taking the coins to the bank was always a big
production. Stacked neatly in a small cardboard box, the coins were
placed
between Dad and me on the seat of his old truck. Each and every time,
as
we drove to the bank, Dad would look at me hopefully. "Those coins are
going to keep you out of the textile mill, son. You're going to do
better
than me. This old mill town's not going to hold you back." Also, each
and
every time, as he slid the box of rolled coins across the counter at
the
bank toward the cashier, he would grin proudly "These are for my son's
college fund. He'll never work at the mill all his life like me."
We
would always
celebrate each deposit
by stopping for an ice cream cone. I always got chocolate. Dad always
got
vanilla. When the clerk at he ice cream parlor handed Dad his change,
he
would show me the few coins nestled in his palm. "When we get home,
we'll
start filling the jar again." He always let me drop the first coins
into
the empty jar. As they rattled around with a brief, happy jingle, we
grinned
at each other. "You'll get to college on pennies, nickels, dimes and
quarters,"
he said. "But you'll get there. I'll see to that."
The
years
passed, and I finished college
and took a job in another town. Once, while visiting my parents, I used
the phone in their bedroom, and noticed that the pickle jar was gone.
It
had served its purpose and had been removed. A lump rose in my throat
as
I stared at the spot beside the dresser where the jar had always stood.
My dad was a man of few words, and never lectured me on the values of
determination,
perseverance, and faith. The pickle jar had taught me all these virtues
far more eloquently than the most flowery of words could have
done.
When
I married,
I told my wife Susan about
the significant part the lowly pickle jar had played in my life as a
boy.
In my mind, it defined, more than any thing else, how much my dad had
loved
me. No matter how rough things got at home, Dad continued to doggedly
drop
his coins into the jar. Even the summer when Dad got laid off from the
mill, and Mama had to serve dried beans several times a week, not a
single
dime was taken from the jar.
To
the
contrary, as Dad looked across the
table at me, pouring catsup over my beans to make them more palatable,
he became more determined than ever to make a way out for me. "When you
finish college, Son," he told me, his eyes glistening, "You'll never
have
to eat beans again - unless you want to."
The
first
Christmas after our daughter
Jessica was born, we spent the holiday with my parents. After dinner,
Mom
and Dad sat next to each other on the sofa, taking turns cuddling their
first grandchild. Jessica began to whimper softly, and Susan took her
from
Dad's arms. "She probably needs to be changed," she said, carrying the
baby into my parents' bedroom to diaper her. When Susan came back into
the living room, there was a strange mist in her eyes. She handed
Jessica
back to Dad before taking my hand and leading me into the room. "Look,"
she said softly, her eyes directing me to a spot on the floor beside
the
dresser. To my amazement, there, as if it had never been removed, stood
the old pickle jar, the bottom already covered with coins.
I
walked over
to the pickle jar, dug down
into my pocket, and pulled out a fistful of coins. With a gamut of
emotions
choking me, I dropped the coins into the jar. I looked up and saw that
Dad, carrying Jessica, had slipped quietly into the room. Our eyes
locked,
and I knew he was feeling the same emotions I felt. Neither one of us
could
speak.
This
truly
touched my heart. I know it
has yours as well. Sometimes we are so busy adding up our troubles that
we forget to count our blessings. Never underestimate the power of your
actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life, for
better
or for worse. God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one
another
in some way. Look for God in others.
- Happy
moments, praise God.
- Difficult
moments, seek God.
- Quiet moments,
worship God.
- Painful moments,
trust God.
- Every moment,
thank God.
"The
best and
most beautiful things cannot
be seen or touched,
yhey must be felt with the heart"
Helen
Keller
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